Families For Life | Responsible Mobile Phone Use for Children and Teenagers

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For parents of children (7 to 12 years old)

Having a mobile phone can help your child stay connected with you and gradually learn to manage a device of their own. At this age, children still need clear guidance and regular reminders to build safe and responsible phone habits.

Set clear family rules

• Talk with your child about when, where and how their phone can be used. Keep the rules simple and easy to follow. For example:

• Put phones away during meals, family activities and face-to-face conversations.

• Set a time for phone use to stop in the evening.

• Keep phones out of bedrooms overnight and charge them in a common family area.

• Agree on which apps, games and online activities are allowed.

• Ask your child to check with you before downloading new apps or making purchases.

As your child grows, review these rules together and adjust them when appropriate.

Show the habits you want to see

Children learn from what adults do. If you expect your child to put their phone away during dinner or conversations, try to do the same. Having phone-free times for everyone makes the rules feel fair and helps your child develop healthy habits.

• Teach them to look after their phone

• Help your child understand that having a phone comes with responsibilities. Encourage them to keep it charged, store it safely and take care not to lose or damage it.

• You can also agree in advance on what will happen if the phone is lost or broken. A protective case, screen protector and phone-finding feature can also help.

• Help them understand phone costs

• Teach your child that calls, mobile data, downloads and other activities can use up their phone allowance or incur costs. Show them how to keep track of their usage and encourage them to use Wi-Fi for larger downloads where appropriate.

Build online safety habits early

Once your child can communicate and go online independently, make online safety part of your regular conversations. Teach your child to:

• protect their phone with a PIN or other security setting;

• keep accounts and profiles private;

• avoid sharing personal information such as their home address or date of birth;

• connect online only with people they know;

• check whether apps are sharing their location and turn off unnecessary location access; and

• tell you if something online makes them worried or uncomfortable.

The goal is not simply to control your child's phone use, but to help them build habits that will keep them safer as they become more independent.

For parents of teens

As teenagers become more independent, their phones are likely to play a bigger role in how they communicate, socialise and access online content. Rather than managing every aspect of their phone use, parents can help teens develop the judgement and self-control needed to use their devices responsibly.

Agree on boundaries together

Have an open discussion with your teen about what responsible phone use looks like in your family. Agree on reasonable expectations around phone use during meals, family time, study time and at night.

A family agreement can be useful, but involve your teen in deciding the boundaries. Review the agreement periodically as their needs and level of independence change. It is also important for everyone in the family, including adults, to follow agreed phone-free times.

Encourage independence and accountability

Give your teen increasing responsibility for managing their own device. This includes keeping it charged and secure, looking after it and understanding what will happen if it is lost or damaged.

Teens can also take greater responsibility for monitoring their mobile data and other usage. Encourage them to understand the limits of their phone plan and avoid unnecessary expenses.

Talk about privacy and online safety

Teenagers may communicate with more people and use a wider range of social media platforms and online services. Talk regularly about protecting their privacy rather than waiting until something goes wrong.

Encourage your teen to:

• use appropriate privacy and security settings;

• think carefully before sharing personal information online;

• be cautious about accepting requests or communicating with people they do not know offline;

• review which apps have access to their location; and

• speak to you or another trusted adult if they encounter cyberbullying, inappropriate content or unwanted contact.

Encourage respectful communication

Remind your teen that being behind a screen does not change how others should be treated. Encourage them to pause before posting or sending something and consider how their words might affect another person.

At the same time, keep conversations about phone use open and non-judgmental. Teens are more likely to seek help when they know they can talk to you if something online goes wrong.

Build trust as they grow

Responsible phone use develops over time. As your teen demonstrates good judgement, you can gradually give them greater freedom to manage their device and online activities.

The aim is to help your teen move towards independent, safe and respectful phone use, while knowing that they can still turn to you for guidance when they need it.

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